Have you heard the phrase, "people never really change" or "you can't really change a person?" Do you believe in this?
Personally, I don't, and I do. Bare with me. I always thought that no matter what life threw at me, to my core I was always the same bubbly Emily, that I always saw through a positive lens and saw the best in people. And there is a sense of identity attached to who we are right?
What if that wasn't the case though. As I have found over the years, I have changed. I am nowhere near the person I was even 10 years ago, not the same 2 years ago, and again a year ago. If you met me now you would not have a clue the kind of person I grew up as or even the type of girlfriend I used to be. I have fundamentally changed and also from a scientific perspective, the neurological patterns that I have changed have invariably changed my DNA, so I am LITERALLY a different person.
How does this affect my identity now? Do I mind that I change and have been changed? Can I identify with the new me? I think if we are always welcoming in the present moment, focusing on the NOW, we don't really need to be attached at any particular persona, we can just be.
So I guess in a way, there is a part of me that is still me, that is still aware and loving the inner child, and the older teenager, and she still pops up every now and again, but for most of the day I am the new me that is forever changing and growing, and I love her more than ever.
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